Thursday, August 23, 2012

New Shoes = Motivation



Two and a half weeks ago I registered for the Suntrust half marathon.  I hadn't told that many of my friends, really, only three.  I started to put up road blocks even before I registered. Could I really do it?  Did I really want to?  It was the last thing Mark was training for before he died, I'd have that as a back up excuse, people would believe I just couldn't do it, too emotional.  I'd bought new shoes as a motivator and even those I'd had for a week.  I'd kept telling myself there was "too much going on".

As it turns out, I've been reading this book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens.  I know I'm not a teen.  I'm reading it as part of a summer reading project for Madison (it was suggested the parents read it, too).   Before I even got to the chapter that started about"The Habits", it talked about having a Personal Bank Account, ways to make deposits and withdrawals within ourselves.  On the list ways to make "deposits" were simple things like being honest, being kind, renew yourself, etc. and I have no problem doing those things.  The one that got me was "Keep promises to yourself".  Wow.  Something that simple.  Waking up everyday and setting out doing what you say you are going to do.  It's such a wonderful feeling of accomplishment and a great way to "make deposits into our personal bank accounts".  Our commitments mean nothing if we can't even keep them to ourselves.

It made me think about all the other books I've read and how you have to make yourself a priority, take care of you.  You are the only one who can make yourself happy, no one else.  I can't think of a better way to start the day then starting off making a deposit into your personal bank account.  Just doing what you said you were going to do.  It could be as simple as waking up when you say or not hitting snooze more than twice, or going for a run!

So, on my 3 mile run this morning, I thought about my inspirations.  I have people who inspire me to be greater and those people are people who are happy and follow through.  They get up every morning and set out to accomplish exactly what they want to accomplish and in the process, they make deposits and become better people, happy people.

It may not have been a great run this morning but it was a start, I can only get better.  And as I looked over at the shadow running next to me, I was reminded that that girl was strong and happy.  She could do anything she wanted, even run 13.1 miles.

Be accountable to yourself, first.  Don't be a victim.  Take charge of your life.  Be happy.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

FULL OF LOVE FEBRUARY

“As the ocean is never full of water, so is the heart never full of love”  ~Unknown



Monday, February 27, 2012

A LITTLE LESS WORRY

Today I woke up thinking about how anxious and nervous I had always been.  It's crazy.  I would get so worked up over just about everything.  It would affect my sleep and I could be overwhelmingly OCD about things.  For example, I was thinking about this coming weekend.  I'm heading to Norfolk with one of my best friends to see one of my favorite musicians.  Normally, I would have directions printed out, the name of the hotel we are staying at and all my ducks in a row, neatly in a folder on the dining room table.  I would worry about leaving the kids and preparing them for wherever they may be staying for the night.  Instructions on how to care for them all written out and bags in the process of being packed.  None of that is done and it probably won't be until Friday morning.  And, there will be no instructions and everything will be just fine.  I will get a good night's sleep every night and not worry.

In the past 18 months I think it's the one thing that sticks out the most.  The lack of worry.  Don't get me wrong, I still worry over little things even though I try not to.  I get less anxious and less nervous about things.  I think when the absolute worst-case-scenario happens to you, it's one of the blessings on the flip side.  I spent my whole life worrying about the "what-ifs" and it did me no good.  I get to enjoy life a little more.  I get to be a little calmer and a lot more relaxed.  Everything is okay and just as it should be.


Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.  ~Swedish Proverb


So, today, as I make my daily "to-do" list, I don't stress that everything might not get done.  I do my best, keep moving forward and enjoy the small things.

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY

"Happiness is to be found along the way, not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it is too late. Today, this hour, this minute is the day, the hour, the minute for each of us to sense the fact that life is good, with all of its trials and troubles, and perhaps more interesting because of them." — Robert R. Updegraff

Monday, February 20, 2012

LOVE

 "Accept the things to which fate binds you and love the people with whom fate brings you together but do so with all your heart." ~Marcus Aurelius


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

LOVE

"With love, even the rocks will open." ~ Hazret Inayat Khan


Just a thought for today.  Go out into the day and just love everything and everyone in it with no exceptions.